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e·nig·ma   [uh-nig-muh]
noun, plural e·nig·mas, e·nig·ma·ta  [-muh-tuh]
1. a puzzling or inexplicable occurrence or situation: His disappearance is an enigma that has given rise to much speculation.
2. a person of puzzling or contradictory character: To me he has always been an enigma, one minute completely insensitive, the next moved to tears.

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“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.”

― Friedrich Nietzsche


LIVING SINGLE MEME - three romantic relationships [1/3]
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Do I have a stamp on my forehead that says, ”The National Spokesperson for the Plight of Black People”? How the hell should I know the black perspective on The Color Purple? That’s it, if I don’t change classes, I’m gonna hurt this fool. Teachers treat me like I’m some kind of Rosetta stone for African-Americans. What? Black people learn how to read, and we all miraculously come to the same conclusion?


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For [Sesame Street’s] 44th season on the air, Cookie Monster was essentially repurposed into a full-time, walking, talking, googly-eyed vehicle for a set of intensely fashionable ideas about psychology and success. The blue Muppet was now … a “poster child for someone needing to master self-regulation skills.”

For the duration of the new season, Cookie [Monster] lusted after his favorite treat as much as ever. But when it came to acting on his desires, he sang, quite literally, a different tune: “Me want it, but me wait.” In sketch after sketch, song after song, he struggled mightily with self-control, strained to keep his focus on long-term goals, and collected mental strategies to delay gratification.


As the capacity to delay gratification seems more and more like destiny, we are becoming a culture obsessed with self-regulation.

Which lends a kind of overpowering weight to the question: If self-control is so important, how are we supposed to achieve it?

Social psychologist David DeSteno, who studies such fascinating things as the interplay of good and evil in each of us and the psychology of trust, examines the new emotional science of self-regulation, looking at the implications of the famous “marshmallow test” – one of the 20th century’s most famous psychology experiments, testing how children’s ability to delay gratification correlates with their capacity for success as adults, an  essential component of grit, which we now know is a greater predictor of success than IQ

DeSteno’s full essay is well worth reading.

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Telling [children] that sex is ‘only between mommies and daddies’ is a lie that leads to confused, hormone-charged teenagers. Telling them that sex is ‘only something that happens when two people love each other very much’ is a lie that causes hormone-charged teenagers to confuse ‘love’ with ‘lust,’ or ‘obsession.’ It leads to leaps of logic like, ‘If I have sex with this person, we must be in love.’ Or worse: ‘If I love this person, I have to have sex with him or her.’

Lea Grover, "This Is What Sex-Positive Parenting Really Looks Like," HuffPosts: Parents (29 July 2014)

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